What if fear is stoping you from moving ahead? What if you’re afraid to follow your dreams and you self sabotage your goals?
We all experience different degrees of fear throughout our life, especially when we want to do something new, outside our comfort zone. We can transform our fear into growthwhen we listen and then take incremental action.
In fact fear is just a normal part of life, and it wants to keep us safe, to protect us. Listening to your fear can actually guide you in the right direction.
To “keep you safe” fear can try to paralyse you from moving forward in your life. So your next step when you feel fear, reflect, then take incremental action towards what you really want.
But first of all, it is wise to look our fear in the eye and to examine what it wants to tell us. May be:
- It is giving us feedback so that we can adjust our trajectory?
- It is showing us that what we’re after is not really that important to us?
- Is it wanting us to change our strategy or to clarify our goal?
- Do we need to expand our time frame to realise our goal?
- Is it telling us that we’re being unrealistic?
- Is it protecting us from getting hurt
After self refection around your fear, your next step is really to take appropriate action:
- What is the next doable baby step in our strategy? Can you do that? If not, divide that step into smaller easy enough steps.
- Research and learn what you need to do to go ahead towards your goal. Most importantly apply it.
- Find the courage to talk with the people you need to talk with
- Research and create a strategy how you’ll face the fear or create a work around strategy if necessary.
- Remind yourselves why this goal is important to you and what the benefits are of doing it. Then go for it with the necessary baby steps
Go for it.
Go after what you really want, and if you don’t know that yet, follow your curiosity.
Only by taking action little by little will you find clarity and power to keep going forward or enough evidence to call it a dead end that you want to leave.
Think about a child learning to walk or someone learning to drive a car for example. The degree of fear can vary depending on the individual, but incremental action can help them face and overcome the fear.
Sure they make a lot of mistakes while learning, but with constant practice and incremental action steps, they eventually master it.
I’ll leave you with this inspiring video and blog from Dr. John Demartini’s webpage around the subject of fear.